My Favourite Hideout

It has been a week of endless sorting, packing and clearing
Each night I went to bed thinking that it was the last
Just to wake up to another day of madness again
It was like the scene in Groundhog Day, repeating the day again and again

Keep ? Sell ? Give ? or Throw ?
When this became a ceaseless cycle , it drained the most alert mind
leaving one comatose and drugged

I sat amongst piles of unsorted stuff, staring blankly, with little progress
When I finally broke out of it, I knew exactly what I should do

To drop everything and do as my heart desired
 


I found myself at my favourite hideout

 


where stumpy trees and tiny trail led to an enchanted garden
 


and I sneaked up to this, under the wispy pines where a commemoration waited to commence

 


and a ginormous tree guarded the gateway
 


I wondered off the beaten path, digging into unshaven shrubs
 


and found myself looking out at these tiny sails popping in and out the water, slowly drifting by

 

This place was beckoning me amidst the madness
And I was glad I came by for a good workout and to bid goodbye

I lugged home more memories to remember by
She’s so gonna be missed

 

 

More pictures of my favourite hideout here and here

 
Linking up with Rachel Teo’s Photo ‘Heart’ Friday

 
 

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Mother’s Day Toast

We were in the midst of packing and moving
There was barely space in the house to walk
and nobody was really interested in Mother’s Day, not the Dad, not the boys

So I was pleasantly surprised when I found a card in my 3 year old’s bag
He had made a Mother’s Day card for me in school

It was a yellow one tied with a red ribbon with gold trimming
He pasted little rectangular cardboard pieces around it and scribbled a portrait of me with big oogly eyes and short spikey hair (cos he couldn’t draw long hair)
Doesn’t matter if I looked more like Frankenstein mom
It was my first card from him and I couldn’t stop smiling

And thanks to preschool teachers, I get a nice card or a nice craft on special days
The elder brother who is in Primary school was too busy mugging for his mid year exam
But he too thought that the card was really nice

So I was busy making breakfast when he came in to shoo me out (the Dad was still snoring in bed, tired out from a night of packing)
Then I heard him rummaging through my pantry
intermittently calling out at me, reminding me not to barge in

Moment later, he scurried out of the kitchen with a slice of bread in hand
Before disappearing into the kitchen again and coming back with another slice
After a few rounds of dashing in and out, he was finally done

His little brother squealed with delight and excitement
He couldn’t wait
His hands were all over the toast

I quickly dished out a plate, arranged everything and snapped a few shots

These were so good you can even eat them on their own (sing it to Gardenia’s jingle)

 
 

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Sorry Isn’t The Hardest Word

Life is a little bit crazy right now
I finally got down to the much dreaded
Packing and selling
We are moving, again

My husband received news about an overseas job posting a while back
If fact, we knew it since last year
and the inital plan was for us to leave mid last year
I sold my sofa, almost sold my bed
had our things wrapped, packed and sealed in boxes from the shipping company (that’s where all my cardboard for craft came from)

Then we were told we were not going

So for weeks, we lived in an almost empty house
and I thought we would just hang in there
who knows, we might be asked to pack up and leave anytime

Home wasn’t cozy like how I wanted it to be
It was bare

I finally bought a new sofa, some new book shelves and filled up the space
Doesn’t matter if we might be leaving in a few months’ time
I realised that life had to go on
And I wasn’t going to sit around and wait for the unknown

So I was nonchalant when we were told again that we should be leaving end of May
I went ahead with the things I wanted to do
An elaborate birthday party, a cycling race, an excursion
Friends were surprised and worried for me because I had done nothing for the move

I thought why stress myself early when I could stress myself later
And anyway nothing was for sure

But now with the air tickets booked
We are less than 3 weeks from our departure
I am finally facing this head on

We are packing and putting almost everything up for sale, albeit slowly

I was elated when my first sale went through
I was like, ‘Hey, this is easier than I thought’

The buyer came over and hauled what that was now rightfully theirs out of the door
A chair that we had unconsciously grown attached to
A sofa that had unknowingly become part of our lives

I felt pangs of reluctance
A tinge of sadness
An unwillingness to let go

It had been an emotional roller coaster ride for the last week
And I have come to realized that
‘Sorry’ isn’t the hardest word
‘Goodbye’ is

 

 

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A Ride To Remember

I signed the kids up for OCBC Cycle Singapore a few months ago
My husband and I were prepared to be their audience and cheerleaders

Then, a couple of weeks before the event, my girl friend asked whether I would be interested to join her for the race

I thought since I probably wouldn’t be able to run a full marathon at 40, I might as well cycle one
And my husband thought he should come along, just in case I have a burst tire and he would get a chance to rescue a damsel in distress

I can cycle but only when the conditions are right

As in, my feet must be able to touch the ground when my butt is on the saddle
And I can’t pull off stunts or delicately squeeze between other cyclists
Getting overtaken by high speed cyclists terrifies me
I feel like I have to slow down and make way

I ride leisurely, at my own pace
The last time I did that was more than a decade ago

So to cycle 42 km in one ride meant that I would need some training
It would help if I could raise the saddle and cycle like the pros
and brake and dismount from the bike without panicking and collapsing into a heap of bicycle and me

I had about a month to sort that out
But first, I needed to get a bike

My beloved sister and her husband were kind enough to loan us theirs
and I finally did my maiden ride 2 weeks’ before race day

I did 15 km on Day 1 (ok, It was more tiring than I thought)
Cycling works on muscle I barely used when I jog, swim or rollerblade
Then I did another 15 km on Day 2
and then 25 km and finally 40 km

Within a week, I clocked 120 km on the bike
I thought my thighs had grown instantly
Eeeeks !
and I was hungry all the time

Throughout the week, I was fumbling with the gear
The bike had 3 gears on the left and 9 on the right, which gave a total of 27 gears
That’s a lot of combination to run through
And it takes time for a novice like me to figure out which combination works best for me

Then my husband had to travel for a week and I hardly had time to train
And because of his busy work schedule, he hadn’t been cycling either

I went on the internet and read more about bikes
I found out that no serious rider would race with a mountain bike, especially one with knobby tires
I could change the tires but that would cost money and it wasn’t my bike to start with

We decided to just race with what we had

Then I read about the most efficient gear settings
A combination that I had never tried before and race day was the next day

I was a nervous wreck that night
I barely slept
I laid in bed worrying about falling off my bike
And I wondered about the gear setting that I would be trying out

My mind just wouldn’t rest
Finally at 4 am, I gave up, my day began

The event was massive
I had never seen so many cyclists in my life (unless you count those on TV)
Many had spent thousands and even tens of thousands for the best equipment and trained for this day
It was heartening to witness such passion

There were also novices like us, who didn’t quite know what to expect

It took us a long while to finally get to the starting line
It was quite chaotic
Just less than 5 minutes into the race, I witnessed the first accident
A lady, probably a newbie like me, crashed into the side railings

I spent the first part of the ride worrying about crashing into another bike, imagining being flung off my own and being run down by others
An incessant fear fueled by a rampant imagination

I braked excessively while charging down Sheares Bridge
I realised my heart wasn’t quite built for that

The ride finally got smoother when we hit flat ground
Then it started to rain and I stopped to raise my saddle
It was about the same time that my husband’s rear wheel came loose and I lost him in the sea of cyclists
I slowed down and stopped to look for him
It was only after the U turn that I found him on the other side of the lane, trailing behind

All this while, my girl friend was nowhere in sight

This was us, before the race started
She was way ahead of us like many other cyclists
It was obvious that many were there for serious competition

How often do you get to cycle a bike on the highway
The answer is, NEVER
It is strange to be cycling on a bike instead of driving in the car on a highway that we commute almost everyday

A sort of tininess in a boundless vastness
A feeling rarely felt in our mostly man made and highly populated homeland

My husband insisted that we last did something like this, cycling without kids, more than 20 years ago
although I thought it was 10

It was like reliving the old days and I had the urgency to savour everything
And almost wishing that the lanes could stretch forever so that we could go on peddling and the race would not end

This is us, on top of Sheares Bridge (me wearing my son’s helmet)
We took 2 hour 18 min

It was a good ride
and an unexpectedly good date
and I learnt that cycling is not just about fitness and endurance
It is also about the equipment, the skill to handle it, and the guts or balls to go for it

 

 

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In The Stillness Of The Night

After having bade goodbye for more than 24 hours, my husband finally reached the other side of the globe
And it still amazes me how a day’s flight can transport one to a totally different world
With completely different climate, people, culture

It’s painful, just thinking about the journey
I really don’t enjoy long distance traveling
I hate how the recycled air in pressurized cabins dry my skin, making me age overnight

And I surprised myself having travelled back to the mountains for holidays not once but thrice over the last 2 years, each time swearing that it will be the last

Here’s his breakfast
His body clock must be screwed

It is night here
Quiet and still

It seldom gets this peaceful when he is around
He would be playing with the kids and they would read books till late

But today the little one crashed out as early as 7.30 pm
I must had worked him really hard

He scootered to and fro school which made him really happy
He is 3.5 years old
and he started swimming without a float

And I couldn’t believe how good he was
It just seemed so natural and effortless for him
He kicked and turned
He spinned and twisted
I was so impressed

Should I read, write, fold the mountain high clothes, chat long distance or just sleep ?

Time like this makes me nervous
Choices frustrate and stress me out
It doesn’t help when I am greedy and want it all
It is just so hard to choose

But tonight, we chatted
I folded the clothes
Made myself a cup of coffee
Read some news on the internet (though there are more books waiting to be read)
and finally composed this

It is good to feel accomplished
though I wish it happens more often
but things usually don’t work out so smoothly, with kids
I guess I just have learn to live better with my choice

It is past midnight now
and I ought to be turning in

It will be another long day tomorrow
A long week ahead
on our own
without him

 

 

 

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