Malcolm is one of those few students in his class that doesn’t take his lunch in school. Each day, I will pick him up for his 2 hours lunch and send him back thereafter. Our 2 hours break serves as a good break for him. We cook, we eat, we chat and we talked about what happens in school. It is something he looks forward to and also a little incentive for him to attend the full day school where everyone blabbers in a language he has yet to master. I can imagine the stress he is going through as not speaking the language makes even the simplest thing tough.
Making friends is one of those things that can either make or break his day.
I realized that dealing with rejection and learning to socialize with his peers are skills he needs to acquire even as early as his age. It is one of those things that he needs to figure out himself and I can only listen, encourage and hope that things will get better.
Just last week, he was troubled and saddened when he was rejected by his classmates at the playground and after 1 week of experimenting, he comes up with his new ‘strategy’ for making friends at the playground. So here it goes,
Step 1. Choose a tree
Step 2. Stand under the tree
Step 3. Wait for predator to approach
Step 4. Reject males, as they usually play fighting games
Step 5. Accept females, though he has no clues what they are talking
if Step 3 fails, repeat Step 1
When asked why he choose to wait for friends to approach him,
he replied, ‘because it doesn’t work if I ask them to play’
And so far, it is working.