Precious Moment

Malcolm has not been behaving lately
He does the things he knew he shouldn’t
He stomps his feet when he is not happy
He bargains when it comes to doing his daily routine
He throws tantrum at the slightest things that doesn’t go his way

Since our return, we have been staying at my parents’ place and I realised that sometime having more people around brings out the bad guy in him.

‘As a kid, you listen cos adults know best, whatever we say, you obey’
are rules that we do not abide in our household

He is used to talking to us like a little adult. Obedience is not something we enforced.
Many times, our method of discipline is through talking.
and he is ready to talk back to anyone who ask him to do things he does not agree or understand.
It is now a challenge to teach him to question without being rude and without being disrespectful.

Other than the new environment, I am also guilty of neglecting my little boy recently.

Since our return, I have been running around everyday, doing things that are totally boring and uninteresting to him. I would be either be out looking for a car, talking to a property agent or going for my checkup.

I have learned from my few years of experience as a first time mum that my neligence or lack of attention is the best reason and explanation for my boy’s behaviour.

So yesterday, I decided to put a hold to my to-do list and give my boy my 101% attention.

We ended up doing these instead …


we had our favourite hotcakes breakfast


we built awesome sand castle

we rented bikes and cycled


we went far far out so that the ships were bigger and closer


We were out the whole day, doing his favourite things

And I was reminded once again the things that are truly precious.

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6 Responses to Precious Moment

  1. sunflower

    Yes, I guess he felt neglected too.

    Anyway, it is not easy to have more than 1 kid.

    All the best to you!

  2. So true! We have the same adjustments with our eldest since the move!

  3. you did it so right Mommy. Apart from separation anxiety, I think a completely different environment may be the cause of it. No matter how adaptable children can be, still there is a threshold….

    *hugs*

  4. so you are back for good.

    everyone needs time to adjust, so give him time, he is a good boy, i’m sure he adjust pretty well.

  5. Nic

    You are a good mommy who tries to understand your son’s issues, address them instead of brushing him aside.

    Rachel : hey nic, thanks, never easy and always learning. haiz !

  6. Thanks for the good reminder!

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