Guilt

My 6 year old was given a couple of projects during the school holiday
He brought home a small potted plant and parents were urged to help care for the plant during the holiday
In addition he was asked to create a 3D model of an icon of Singapore
All these, he was supposed to bring back on the first day of school

I was quite sure that if this was before baby Marcus was born
Malcolm’s small potted plant would have overgrown and probably need repotting when school reopens

His 3D model wouldn’t fall short of  an impressive spinning wheels decorated in great details or something to that effect

Instead, on the first day of school, I had to apologize to the teacher for killing the poor plant due to negligence

My son’s 3D model was a last minute congregation of sushi boxes, kebab sticks, used cardboard boxes wrapped with old newspaper sponged green and it was supposed to look like our country’s grandeur flyer

I felt so guilty

I have disproved my own hypothesis
That having a second child when the first born was older will be easier

My 6 years old needed just as much or perhaps even more attention than his 8 month old brother !

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4 comments

  1. pc says:

    you are not alone… i probably will kill the plant as well.
    and i will never be creative enough to use sushui boxes to make the flyer. this is awesome!

    Rachel : thanks pc for the consoling words 🙂

  2. Priscilla says:

    Well nothing wrong with that at all…sometimes as parents, it becomes very easy to carry this badge of guilt with us. On other hand, it is sometimes good for our kids to see that mum sometimes just can’t manage everything to the dot, the fish will die because the water hasn’t been changed, the plants dead, the dinner get burnt on the stove..but it can still be fixed, and is not the end result that matters, but how we get there : )

    Rachel : hey thanks priscilla for the consolation. think my son knows it very well that mum cannot handle all! haha He even suggested to have grandma comes by more often so that mummy will not be so tired. oh and I think whoever said that women can multitask better must be so wrong, either that, or I m just more of a man, probably too much testosterone !

  3. Rach says:

    I guess we as mothers of more than 1 young child will always have this guilt with us. always thinking we should ve done better, we should ve avoid this and that, we should we should…

    still we as mothers are still learning and adjusting on a daily basis. of cos we can do more and better, but after many attempts and hardwork ya.

    we,re in the same boat =) give yourself a pat on your shoulder for what you ve done for your family.

    Rachel : thanks rach for the encouragement. I am glad that through blogging, I get to know mothers like you who share the same challenges. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not the only one 🙂

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